Desi

Where do I begin? How do you express how you feel when your grandson enters this world? I know what it was like when my son arrived and didn’t think anything else would be that magical. But to see my son with his son is worth everything. To know that Alexander has grown into such a beautiful, kind person and to know he will share that with his son…well it doesn’t get better than that.

My daughter in law Stephanie also is a shining example of what a mother’s love can be. Every moment she was focused on bringing a child into the world healthy and safe. I am so proud of how these two young (and yes they are young) people have stepped up and become parents is very inspiring. Their love for each other will be passed on to this very lucky baby.

Desi Silva Cannon was born July 2nd at 12:11 coming in at 7 lbs and 12 ozs and 21 inches long with a full head of black hair just like his papa. Without sounding like Pollyanna I can’t believe the miracle that is birth. I look at Desi and he is perfect in every way. Amazing how nature steps up and does its job in such an incredible way.

I want this world to be perfect for Desi and I know that the world has a lot of work to do but knowing that he is surrounded by people who love him to the moon and back gives him a strong beginning. What else can you wish for in beginning your life?

So in the words of Winnie the Pooh, “I think we dream so we don’t have to be apart for so long. If we’re in each other’s dreams, we can be together all the time.” Dream on, Desi, dream on. Love Grandma.

Wealth

I recently listened to an interview with Suze Orman, the money gal. She is the one always on PBS talking about how you can keep your hard earned money. She corrects the mistakes people have already made in their financial choices and sometimes does it in a very eye-opening way. In other words, she preaches.

Now I like what she says most of the time but sometimes I feel down right stupid when it comes to my finances. Let’s just say it’s not one of my strong points. So when I listen to Suze I don’t feel like I’m the brightest one on the block.

But this last interview really stuck with me. She talks about her eight qualities of success. I liked what she said so much I wrote them down and put them on my bathroom mirror so I would remind myself every day what it is to be wealthy.

Here they are…Harmony, balance, courage, generosity, happiness, cleanliness, wisdom and beauty.

“Now I know this seems very basic and obvious,” I said to myself until Suze started taking each word and describing what it meant to her. And that’s when I started thinking about what it meant to me. I have to say it was more difficult than I thought. I can tell myself what each of those words means to me but actually living them is a completely different animal.

Courage is the ability to make choices that bring harmony and balance. And that comes from being in a total agreement between what you think, say and do. And then to be calm about it. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve asked myself why I said what I did and then not have the courage to own it. Feeling more ashamed and embarrassed.

Generosity is giving with no strings attached and happiness comes when all four of the above comes together. Sometimes easier said than done. Definitely a work in progress.

As is wisdom which is the ability to make the right decision at the right time. Cleanliness stems from the wisdom to clear your thoughts and access the balance and harmony to find courage.

And last but not least the beauty when you incorporate all of it to find the wealth in life. Not necessarily all about money. In fact, very little.

As Suze sees it, it’s the foundation that propels you from being overwhelmed to empowered. Gotta say I’m right there with her. And I didn’t even have to use math.

Overload

Where did five months go? My calendar was full. Not with work but with life. House, reading, visiting friends, dinners, baby shower, etc. And in between all of that starting a new venture that has been in the back of my mind for five years.

My to-do list always seemed to be too much and too longterm. Which meant the same things kept being carried over day after day after day. I still haven’t cleaned up my computer or my garage and God knows when that will happen. I know the computer especially is a necessary evil but because I am so computer illiterate I can’t imagine I will conquer that anytime soon.

Yes, I should hire someone to sit and help me but I haven’t taken the time to find the right person who will be knowledgeable, but more importantly, patient. I know I will have to strap myself down to go through it so I can’t imagine it will be any fun for someone holding my hand through the process.

I have said before my life worked even before computers and cell phones and all the other things that are now at my fingertips. But I have to admit it is a hell of a lot easier to find information, communicate for business and connect with people I have lost touch with over the years.

I know I get anxious when I don’t have any internet service because God forbid I miss that life changing email that will tell me what direction I should go in my life.

I am an information junkie and can spend hours just on google alone learning new things. I use to carry a book everywhere I went especially when I lived in NYC and spent many hours riding the subway. Now I pulled out my phone when I was riding the subway instead of the NYC Times or a magazine or book.

I must confess I still get the Sunday NYC Times delivered every week and have stacks of books by my bed to read. I still love the physical feel and the familiar smell of a new book. Old habits die hard.

But there are days when I feel overwhelmed and overloaded. And I’m not even working! How did I do it before? I just did. I was overtired and anxious and grumpy. I am starting a new project soon and feel better knowing I took that time to organize what was missing in my life. Me. I took the time to find out what I needed to somehow keep a bit of balance in my life and work.

Not saying that it will be perfect but I feel clearer now knowing where I want to go. I know my home is my haven and being able to come home to my own bed has been heaven.