The truth. What is. The expression WORD is just that.
I know that we have to focus on taking care of each other.
The questions we need to be asking are… Is what I am about to say kind? Is it true? Is it necessary? Life happens when you listen.
I have a responsibility to listen more and hear what people are saying. I must focus on giving people the space to feel safe. That the moment to moment is all we have right now to find peace.
Hopefully, the reality is that voices are being heard loud and clear and that there will finally be a change in the right direction. The time is now. No excuses. To be judged not by color but by character.
“Careful the things you say. Children will Listen. Careful the things you do. Children will see. And learn.”
Stephen Sondheim wrote a beautiful musical called “Into The Woods” and in it is a very poignant song called “Children Will Listen.” Those words from the song hold very true today. Our actions and our words are so important to our children. Especially now they need to feel safe and cared for even if we are afraid and unsure. We are all they have.
My son is 31 with a son who is almost 1. I love watching him take care of and protect his son and wife. These are uncertain times and a feeling of hope is all we have to cling to right now.
“Guide them along the way. Children will glisten. Children will look to you. For which way to turn. To learn what to be. Careful before you say, “Listen to me.” Children will listen.”
“Careful the spell you cast. Not just on children. Sometimes the spell may last past what you can see. Careful the tale you tell. Children will listen.”
In these times when spending time with family whether with or without children it’s hard sometimes to be aware of not listening. I think people don’t want you to solve their problems or ignore or minimize their feelings. They just want recognition, understanding, and acceptance.
I don’t think we need a pandemic to understand the importance of listening. Words are important but not everything. Sometimes it’s just your willingness to listen that speaks volumes.
I recently watched a video from Tomfoolery called The Great Realisation Hindsight 2020. I have watched it numerous times and when I’m not I’m thinking about it. Being quarantined has given me a lot of time to think about things. You know, stuff. I’ve always had an issue with my monkey mind even in the best of times but somehow it has seemed to be calmer. Having the time to reflect and not judge has helped considerably.
I finished my course from Yale entitled The Science of Well Being and have to say that I did a jig when I received my certificate upon completion. It doesn’t mean I have college credit from Yale but it does mean I have a personal credit knowing I plowed through. And I must say I am better for it.
Which brings me to hindsight in everything, not just 2020. The technical meaning of hindsight is the understanding of a situation or event only after it has happened or developed. Wow is that a rude awakening considering where we are now. Much like the stock market. Oh, to have a crystal ball. With the stock market, there are ways to creep back to mend what has happened. But with this pandemic, I think we have to reach much deeper and go back to basics. In everything. As boring as simplicity may seem at times, beauty is truly in the eyes of the beholder.
I had to do a final paper on what I had learned from my course. I chose gratitude to focus on for four weeks. What I realized especially not being able to go out much was that I began to be more grateful for simple things.
It seems ridiculous to even mention some of the things I found. Like coffee, birds singing, a beautiful sunset, time to sit in my swing and look at the mountains, vitamins, a notarized document (quite a feat in a pandemic), webinars, etc. You get the picture. Nothing earth shattering but made my day go a bit smoother having all of it. Trust me there were other things deeper I was grateful for but the point is I had taken for granted even what seemed to be mundane.
So I sit here now writing my blog and listening to my washing machine wash my clothes in my own home with a full belly from a lovely dinner I prepared able to afford all of it. Heck yeah, I’m grateful.